Working with people from Love, Truth and Wholeness

A New Dimension in Working with People

An excerpt from the book that Giten is currently writing
with practical exercises to develop our presence and intuition in therapeutic work

Spiritual therapy works basically because we are all one. In the depth of our heart and being, we are in contact with each other. We are in contact with each other in the ocean of consciousness.

“To be and work with people on a spiritual plane is the greatest source of joy for me, says Giten. “That is what makes my heart dance with joy. To write this book has also filled my being many times with a deep feeling of joy and sense of meaning.”

This book is an invitation to open our heart. This book is basically about love. It is designed to help us understand how healing happens. Healing is pure love. Healing and wholeness happens when we meet the love within ourselves. Spiritual therapy is about love – what love is, where to find it and how to develop the capacity to share love, to give caring. This book is an invitation to people, who are interested in spiritual therapy and healing and wants to work with people from love, truth and wholeness.
Working with people from love, truth and wholeness is the psychology of being, the science of inner transformation. The psychology of being begins where Western psychology ends. It goes beyond Skinner, Freud, Jung, Rogers and Humanistic psychology. The psychology of being is the psychology of consciousness, a psychology for inner transformation. It is basically not a question of psychology; it is a question of being. The psychology of being begins where we are and takes us to that which we can be.

The psychology of being takes us through the layers of personality of thoughts, feelings and learnt attitudes to our inner being, which is hidden deep within us. The inner being is a deep acceptance of ourselves as we are. The inner being is to be available to life. The inner being is to be one with life. This book is an invitation to discover the inner being, our inner source of love, joy, acceptance, humour, truth, freedom, wisdom, silence, creativity and oneness with life.

This book is designed to help us develop our presence, so that our presence and intuition becomes a source of love, joy, acceptance, understanding, truth, silence, wisdom and creativity in the contact with another person.  This book presents a new dimension of healing with a base in meditation. Meditation is the way to deepen our capacity to be present and to explore how to bring the meditative presence and quality into the healing and therapeutic process. The underlying theme of the book is meditation - but not meditation as a static technique - but as the capacity to BE with ourselves and with another person in a quality of watchful awareness, acceptance and relaxation.

This book aims at developing a meditative presence and quality, to develop the inner “yes”-quality, the silence and emptiness within, the inner source of healing and wholeness, the capacity to surrender to life.

This book is written both for people who want to discover their own inner being and for those who work with other people and wants to discover a new love, clarity, depth and inspiration in their professional work.

The different topics of the book are combined with practical exercises.

• Presence - The Inner Source of Love, Truth and Wholeness

• Meditation - A Yes to Life

• The Seven Levels of Consciousness

• Healing is pure love

What is intuition? How can we develop a trust in ourselves, in our heart and in our intuition? How can we develop our intuition, so that it becomes a source of love, truth and wisdom in therapeutic work? How can we be in contact with the Whole through our intuition?

Intuition is our true inner voice, our constant available inner source of love, truth and wisdom, and the silent voice of Existence within ourselves. Through our intuition, we are in contact with the Whole.

Intuition is the voice of the heart. Intuition is our inner teacher and guide. Intuition means to learn to listen to the silent whisperings of our heart.

Intuition basically means to develop a trust in ourselves.
Intuition is a 'yes' to life. Intuition is to develop a trust in life. Intuition is learning to listen to life. Intuition is to be in contact with the Whole

Intuition means to follow the whispers of the inner in a basic 'yes' to life. When we allow ourselves to follow the silent whisperings of intuition, the fragrance of love arises.

Intuition is a valuable tool in therapeutic and healing work. I have been working for more than 20 years with helping people develop a trust in themselves and in their intuition. The word 'intuition' means to know from within ourselves. Intuition means to learn to listen and to understand the Existential language. The Existential language is the language of silence. Learning to listen to the intuition mean to develop the subtle listening that is needed to hear the silent voice of our heart and being. Intuition is to be in contact with the Whole.

The basic vocabulary of the Existential language is an inner quality of love, joy, trust, silence, truth and wisdom. Intuition means to learn to be in contact with the inner source of love, truth and wisdom, which is already present within ourselves as a constant available source.

Through the five physical senses, sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch, we learn to know the outer world. Through the intuition, the sixth sense, we learn to know the inner world. The five physical senses are limited in time and space, while the intuition is not limited by distance and geography. The intuition has the capacity to see beyond time and space.
To see the world through the five physical senses is like seeing the waves on the periphery of the sea. To see the world with the eyes of intuition is like being in contact with the depth of the sea. Through the five physical senses, we see the part. Through the intuition, we are in contact with the Whole.

To see life from the perspective of intuition is to have vision. To see life from the perspective of intuition is to see life from the perspective of wholeness. It is to understand that life is basically one and that we are part of life. While the intellect can only see the details, intuition sees the whole. To see life from the perspective of intuition is like looking at life from the summit of the mountain, whereas seeing life only from the perspective of intellect is like looking at life from the foot of the mountain. Through learning to listen to our intuition, we learn to be in contact with the Whole.

Intuition is not about going out into the world, intuition is about inviting the world to you. It was a spiritual awakening for me when I realized that my intuition was not limited by distance and geography. I realized that my intuition was already in contact with the Whole and that it could guide me all over the world. I still remember vividly when my intuition first began to whisper that it was time to go to India when I was 21 years old. I did not understand why, but I trusted my intuition. I had already made plans to go to Ibiza to live high-life with a friend. But instead I called my friend and told him that I was not going to Ibiza, but that I was going to India. There was a long silence and then my friend said slowly and thoughtfully: 'Well, then I suppose I have to go to India also...’

Intuition is basically a question of developing a trust in ourselves and to the silent voice of our heart and being. Through learning to trust our intuition, we can the sense of being lovingly and carefully guided in life. When we have developed a trust in our intuition, intuition is not just single impulses any longer. It becomes a constant available inner source of love, truth and wisdom. We can just close our eyes, go within ourselves, and always receive the right guidance.

When I had pursued an education in healing in USA 1984, I was interested to pursue a further education in spiritual counseling, but because of financial reasons I could not do it at that time. The same day that I thought about what to do about this, I suddenly remembered that I had previously booked an individual consultation with one of the counselor’s at the University. I brought up the question about the further education in spiritual counseling with him, but he did not understand why I wanted to pursue it and said: “You have much trust and silence to share”.
 
Our heart is the door to how much we can allow Existence to guide us. Our heart is the door to how much we can allow life to support us in our psychological development process towards spiritual maturity.

Intuition is basically a function of our heart. Our heart is the door to how much we can allow life to guide us - instead of being directed by our ideas, concepts and expectations of how things should be. Since the days of Aristotle’s we have been taught that logic is the only way to reach a solution, but while the logic works in a linear step-by-step-process, the intuition simply takes a quantum leap to a solution without any intermediate steps.
Intuition is about learning to listen to the silent whisperings of our heart. To listen to our heart is not always easy, but it is always true.

In an individual consultation, in a course or in a situation in life, when I do not know what to do, I turn my attention within and ask for guidance from my intuition, from Existence within myself. Sometimes the answer comes immediately and sometimes it takes longer before Existence is ready to respond. But I will always receive an answer. It is always a deep source of joy to allow Existence to guide me and to give me what I really need, instead of following my own ideas, ambitions and preconceived concepts. Sometimes I can ask my intuition a direct question, and then let go of the question, and allow Existence to give me an answer. Many times, I notice that it is when I let go – instead of struggling to make things happen – that they really happens by themselves in a more loving and creative way that I ever could have imagined.
Life is really very simple. In each moment, we have the opportunity to choose between saying “yes” or “no”, to listen to our intuition, to listen to our true inner voice, the Existential voice within ourselves. When we say “yes”, we have contact with Existence and we receive nourishment, love, joy, support and inspiration. When we say “no”, we create a separation from life and begin to create dreams and expectations of how it should be. We begin to live in the memories of the past and in the fantasies of the future – as if any other time than here and now really could make us happy and satisfied.

Intuition is to learn to live from our inner being, from our essence and authentic self, from the Existence within ourselves. Intuition is to learn to live our own truth. There are basically two kinds of people in the world: outer-directed people and inner-directed people. The outer-directed people are directed from without themselves and inner-directed people are directed from within themselves. Intuition is to learn to be directed from within ourselves, from our inner source of love, truth and wisdom, instead of being directed from outer forces and by other people’s ideas, opinions and expectations. Through learning to listen to the love and truth of our own heart and being, we always know what is the truth in a situation. Through learning to listen to the truth of our own heart, we can always see the situation in the healing light of love. Through learning to listen to the truth of our own being, we can always see the situation with the vision of the Whole.

Intuition is to take creative decisions. Through developing a deeper trust in our intuition, mechanical and habitual patterns, which was safe and comfortable, begins to change into conscious choices. Conscious choices are not always easy, but they are always true.
Intuition is a trust to the unknown. Intuition is an invitation to the unknown. Intuition is to open our heart to the unknown. Intuition is to change perspective from the safe and secure to a thirst for risks and adventure. Intuition is a “yes” to the unknown mystery of the moment.
Intuition is to follow the vision of the heart. Intuition is the art of the heart. Intuition is the art of the moment. Intuition is always in the moment, in the here and now. Our heart has no rules and expectations. Our heart lives in the here and now, in the moment.

Intuition is about learning to distinguish between the silent whisperings of our heart and the endless whishes, desires and expectations of the ego.

Intuition is about learning to follow our own inner guidance, instead of listening to outer forces and other people. It is when we realize that everything that we need for a loving, creative and satisfying life is already within ourselves that we begin to listen to the whisperings of the inner. Through developing a trust in our self, we do not as easily become a victim for outer forces.
Through developing a trust in our self and in our intuition, we also help our inner teachers to guide us. These inner teaches guides us through our intuition. Through listening to the intuition, it becomes very clear what will make us really satisfied.

Through trusting the intuition, to our true inner voice, to Existence within, life will give us everything that we really need.

Intuition is the art of the moment. Intuition is always in the moment, in the here and now. While the intellect swings all the time like the pendulum of a clock between the memories of the past and the dream and fantasies of the future, intuition is always in the moment, always in the here and now. The more we develop our inner being, our inner source of love and truth, the inner quality of being here and now, the more we have also access to our intuition.

Intuition is about moving out of our own way and our sense of “I”. It is about moving out of the way of our ideas about how things should be – and just be with what is. It is to be in the living reality of the moment.

In period of chaos, confusion and change, it can be difficult to hear the silent whisperings of intuition, because of the restless chaos of the mind. It is like the waves on the surface of our consciousness is rising high, so that it becomes difficult to come in contact with our inner being, with the depth of our consciousness. But in the midst of chaos, the center of our being exists like an inner source of silence, which is not touched by the chaos on the surface. In times of chaos, we can always return to this inner source of silence.

When I stand in a crossroad and have to make a major life choice, I usually ask my intuition which choice to make and then I leave the choice to my intuition, to my inner source of love, truth and wisdom, to Existence within myself, and allow three days for my intuition to become ripe with an answer.

The way to develop intuition is to learn to love, accept and respect ourselves.
We have all the same capacity to develop our intuition. Love and meditation are the two ways to develop our intuition.

A female meditator describes intuition as a form of openness and listening to life, which is trained step-by-step through meditation. She says: “To begin to listen and understand the messages that I get in life is one of the best aids that I have. It is like you begin to feel that there is something that is with you and that you can communicate with. You can send out the questions that you have in life and say: “How should I do now? J am thinking about doing this, but I do not know?”  And then an answer always comes. The answer may not come in the form of words, but it always comes a clear answer. I take these answers directly from life. If things happen easily, I trust that it is right. This listening is trained through meditation. This sensitivity also becomes more and more subtle and you begin to hear more sophisticated messages. In the beginning you do not listen so good and that is also the reason why people receive harder and harder blows to wake up.”

She continues to describe that this subtle listening is also a meditation in itself. She says: “When you begin to meditate, meditation is like a small island in your life. It is an isolated phenomenon in your life. But when the meditation starts to develop in your life, the sensitivity also becomes more developed.

The school has taught us to be skeptical, but it has not taught us how to trust. Intuition is basically means to develop a trust in our heart and in ourselves.

My own way has always been to trust my own intuition and myself. My intuition has always been my inner teacher and guide in life – long before I was even aware of the fact that I was actually listening to my intuition. I have always trusted my own heart, my own love, trust, intelligence, wisdom and creativity and it have always led me right. Even when it has meant to go another way than the flock, when it has meant to go against others and to put up creative boundaries against that which do not resonate with my own heart, with my own truth.

Intuition is learning to respond to the situation in the moment, instead of reacting from preconceived ideas, concepts and notions. It is when we let go of things that they really happen. It is when we let go of our ideas about how things should be, that we can allow our intuition to guide us. When an idea or a project has support in Existence, it grows by itself.
I remember when I stood alone in the heat in the busy and crowded bus station of the million-town Bombay in India. I was tired after having just landed in India after a 12-hour flight from Stockholm. I was about to try to find a bus and go to a small town, which was a 5-hour journey by bus. The problem was just that the signs of the buses were written only in Hindi. I asked a number of bus drivers, but they just gave me confusing and contradictory answers. Finally, I gave up and turned my attention within and asked by intuition to guide me to the right bus. There was many buses coming and leaving the bus station, but after some time my intuition gave me a nudge when a new bus came into the station. I boarded the bus and also asked both the bus driver and a couple of Indian woman sitting in the back of the bus if this was the right bus to the town that I wanted to go. The all agreed that this was the right bus, which increased the probability that my intuition was right. The bus slowly left the bus station and began its journey out into the gigantic and boundless country of India. The bus traveled for hours and I hoped that this would prove to be the right bus. Suddenly I saw a small sign by the road with the name of the small town that was my destination, which finally confirmed that my intuition had once again led me right.

Through following our own heart, we also help others to follow their own heart. Through following our own truth, we also help others to follow their own truth.

Intuition is the voice of our inner being. Intuition is the voice of Existence within ourselves. Through listening to the intuition, we are in contact with the Whole.

A result of following our intuition is a deep feeling of joy, a sense of meaning and an inner satisfaction.

To follow the silent voice of intuition is to surrender to Existence. Intuition is already in contact with Existence, with that which is larger than ourselves. When we live in contact with Existence, life becomes immensely satisfying.

Intuition is a trust that if we follow our heart, the Whole becomes enriched.

Intuition – Exercises

Exercise 1:  From intellect to intuition

This is an exercise, which aims on learning to distinguish between intellect and intuition. Take as a continuous meditation to learn to distinguish between the intellect, between our ideas of how things should be, and intuition, our true inner voice, to learn to distinguish between the false and the real, between the true and the artificial.


Exercise 2:  Learning to distinguish between listening to the intuition and to be directed by outer forces

This is an exercise that aims at learning to be aware when you allow yourselves to be directed by outer forces and when you allow yourself to listen to your intuition. Be continuously aware in different situations between when you allow yourself to be directed by other people's ideas, opinions and expectations and when you allow yourself to be guided from within by listening to your own intuition, to your own true inner voice, to your own inner source of love, truth and wisdom, to Existence within yourself.


Exercise 3:  To invite guidance

When you are in a cross road in life or in situations when you need guidance, take as a conscious exercise to ask you intuition a question and ask for guidance and clarity. The answer may not come directly, but you will always receive an answer.


Exercise 4:  Make a painting of intuition

This meditation aims at painting a picture in colour and form of your experience of intuition.

If you do this meditation together with a partner, you can discuss your painting with your partner.


Exercise 5:  Listen to your heart

To continuously be in contact with your heart and with your intuition, you can ask the following four questions in different situations for example when you have to make a choice or when you are going to take a new step:

1. Will I love myself if I do this for example if I take this new step, if I chose this or if I say this.
2. Will I feel courageous?
3. Is it beautiful for me?
4. Can it be simplified in any way?

Exercise 6:  Intuition – taking creative decisions.

Intuition is about taking creative decisions. Take as an exercise to take a conscious decision during a whole day to allow your intuition, your inner source of love, trust and wisdom, to guide you through the day to take creative decisions.

Exercise 7:  Making a energy reading of a partners heart in the form of a flower

This is an exercise in intuition and healing, where you sit facing a partner and make an energy reading of the partner’s heart in the form of a flower.

Begin this exercise by turning your attention within yourself and come in contact with you own heart. When you have come in contact with your own heart, begin to tune in with your partners heart and describe the partner’s heart in the form of a flower. Describe in words what kind of flower it is, the quality of the flower, the colour of the flower and the surroundings in which the flower grows.

Stay continuously in contact with your own heart during this exercise and be aware of how the contact from heart to heart plus the communication through words creates healing. When you and your partner has read each others hearts, take a moment to share how it felt to have your heart read and how the communication from heart to heart crates healing.

Exercise 8:  Intuition-journal

To become more aware about how your intuition is developing, take a decision to write an intuition-journal every evening during one month. When you wake up in the morning, remember that this is a new opportunity to develop your intuition. Take a conscious decision in your heart that today you are going to be aware and to trust your intuition during all the activities of the day. Be continuously aware during the day about the difference between being in contact with yourself and your intuition and not being in contact with your intuition.

Be grateful in the evening for everything that has happened during the day, since both positive and negative experiences are teachers on the way to develop intuition. Write an intuition-journal in the evening and write shortly during 10-15 minutes about when you managed and when you did not manage to trust your intuition during the day. Do not judge and evaluate whether you managed or did not manage to trust your intuition, but let the intuition-journal be a way to simply be aware and develop your intuition.

Exercise 9:  Become friend with a tree

On an unconscious level, trees are already in contact with Existence. With their roots deeply rooted in the earth and with their branches reaching towards the sky, trees have their own innate wisdom.

A meditation exercise you can do to develop your intuition is to become friend with a tree. Sit under the tree and ask the tree questions and listen within to your own intuition for the answers that you receive.

Exercise 10:  To see what the Whole wants

This is an exercise to let go and to see what the Whole wants in a certain issue. When you have compared the pros and cons on a certain issue, then leave the issue to the intuition, to the inner source of love, truth and wisdom, to the voice of Existence within, and see what the Whole wants concerning this issue.